I think it’s alarming that in answering this question, most people automatically thought of the president.  There are other political figures in our country and the world over.  But honestly, the only qualities that matter are the ones that get you elected.  And re-elected.  All you have to do is look at our elected officials.  The qualities they exhibit are the ones you and I voted for.  There is no defined set of qualities.  The best our political figures can do is to cater to the capriciousness of the American people.   
   

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The fact that this isn’t my question?  No.  I’m having a hard time with this question.  I’ve gone through a lot in my life and it has all contributed to the person I am today but I can’t say that I’m necessarily proud of it all.  I mean, a lot of it was (at the time) pure torture.  Okay, so to answer this question, I’m going to change it a little.  Give it a remix.  What do I brag about the most?  The fact that I survived almost 20 hours of labor!  And of course I’m proud of it.  Because nothing in this world that is of value is easy to come by.   

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I feel like I can be more candid on the internet than I would normally be.  Maybe because there’s the element of anonymity or perhaps because I feel I can express myself much better with text than speech.  I’m not different when it comes to my opinions, beliefs, and values — those stay the same no matter what.   

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when i think about having another kid, it just scares the crap out of me.  well, my first thoughts are, “aw.  how cute, a baby.”  but then i remember what i went through to get something that small to come out of me.  and then i remember the movie alien with sigourney weaver and it makes me never want to have sex again.  ever.

Yes.  And I hope that, when I meet him, I will have the strength to say, “Sorry.  I’m married.”

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A good featured question would be one that could inspire some hilarious responses.  What we all need is just a little more laughter and a little (LOT) less hostility.  What makes us turn against our fellow man?  Ah damn, the rhetorical questions are the worst.

I had to add on just one thing, that a good featured question would be one that could get people thinking beyond their own lives.
   

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i know that we all make mistakes from time to time.  still, every once and a while you make a mistake that just isn’t worth it.  there are the kind of mistakes that serve no purpose other than to reinforce the idea that sometimes, you just really are an idiot.

but i guess it’s still important to remember that tomorrow is a new day and a new chance not to act like an idiot.

i’m still learning and i still have my setbacks.

can you believe the vicious fires in greece right now?  the other day i heard that a woman was found dead in her car still clutching her four children and her house was the only house in the village untouched by the flames.  how sick is that?

if i had some wishes i’d most likely use one of them to wish for some self-control over toxic behaviors.  and then probably world peace.  and after that it’d be harsher punishments for parole violators, stan.

ortho tricyclen lo makes me really nauseous.

i haven’t been able to sleep normally, and i feel all messed up.

i don’t like assumptions, even those i make myself.

i am an angry driver.  it’s from learning to drive in a large city full of moron drivers, ok, more like aggressive drivers.

it maybe be harder to become an ex-pat than i originally thought.  seems like it’s easier to stay here.  not that it’s what i want.  we all know it’s not about what’s easy, because anything of value in this life is not easy to obtain.

i do love my daughter.  i have put my life in order so that she may have the best things in life.  of course i meet her basic needs, but it’s not about those.  i’ve stayed up all night with her just to make sure she’s okay, i sing and read to her, play with her, try to inspire her imagination.  i don’t believe there is a life for me that doesn’t involve her.  that being said, i understand that she is more than just my daughter.  she is a person in her own right and i try not to impose too many of my own beliefs on her.  my parents always wanted me to express my individuality, never did they want to make me a miniature version of themselves. 

i don’t believe that everything is about myself.  i don’t even want it to be that way, i like being a nurturer to my child and to my husband as well.  i understand that being a wife has nothing to do with how well i can cook and clean and do the laundry.  that’s not why my husband married me.  he didn’t even marry me because i was the mother of his baby.  he married me because he saw in me the qualities and attributes that he was looking for in a partner.  simply stated, he married me because he loves me.

my pregnancy was complicated and very difficult on me but did i ever once think that i shouldn’t or didn’t want to be going through all of that?  do i resent the hours i spent at the hospital while i was still pregnant, or even the hours i spent in labor and subsequently in intense pain?  do i resent the emergency c-section and the eight weeks it took me to recover?

it’s just ridiculous to think that i’m not a good mother.  there is no other woman in this world that could be a better mother to my child than i am.  i know that her success in life is contingent on her taking what she’s learned from me and applying to her life.  so no matter what i teach her, it’s all up to her.

it never occurred to me that there would be people actually opposed to raising the minimum wage.  i just don’t know where to start with that.  why would it be a bad thing to raise minimum wage?

i watched an inconvenient truth the other day and was really surprised by it and i think that global warming is an issue that we all need to get behind before it’s too late.

i never cared about environmental issues before, and don’t get me wrong i’m not rushing out to buy a hybrid (mostly because they are way too expensive and you’d actually have to drive something like 250,000 miles just to break even with the price of the car and savings in gas and i already drive a fuel efficient vehicle) but it will make me think twice from this day forward.

why wouldn’t we want to save our earth?  we protect our houses against theft, against insects, against the elements (the best we can), and yet we don’t do our part for the environment.

a bigger issue for me is sex.  i believe that we desperately need to vamp up the level of sex education in our schools.  for me, sex education was abstinence only education and while i believe abstinence is a very good plan, i think it’s unrealistic to force it on teenagers.  i was pretty much told in high school that if i had sex, i would get an std and/or get pregnant.  not to mention that my boyfriend would most likely break up with me and go on to someone else, taking a part of me with him.  sex can have some terrible emotional and physical consequences but there are other sides to it as well.  and i have to say that just because a pregnancy is unplanned does not make it a bad thing.

eh, it’s not quite where i wanted to go with this, but my mind is way too jumbled.  too much on my plate, i guess.

bitches and whores i say, bitches and whores.