August 13, 2007
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people create the drama in their own lives. those who play victim only play it to themselves. we don’t have control over everything in our lives, but the one thing we can control is our reactions. people don’t like drama queens. and i don’t mean that i don’t like them, i mean, it’s tiring to just be around people like that. i don’t want to live vicariously through that. what’s the point? there are things in my life that i want, the biggest one being stability. i’ve changed, i really have. and even i used to think that people don’t change. but once you get some perspective, oh it has such a profound influence.
i think that’s what most people need in their lives. and i would like to say that having a baby is what changed me, but i know that’s not entirely it. i know people who have multiple children and still act like idiots. i think what really does it, what really changes you is your reaction to something life altering. because even though something of that magnitude has happened, it doesn’t automatically mean that you’re going to be different. you have to choose to change. and for the better, obviously.
it means, letting go. of pain, of pride, of the past, and of your remorse, regret, and dissatisfaction. you created the life you are living right now. which means, and this is crucial, that you can create the life you live tomorrow. or in five minutes. it is all about perspective. do what makes you happy, but be mindful of it. as at some point, if not always, the decisions you make affect others. and this is key. you are not alone in this world. you must take into consideration that fact that other people exist and have exactly the same rights as you.
and i belive that this is where most people have gone wrong. they sever ties with people because of conflicting interests. don’t blow off people because you think they are getting in your way. most importantly, do not burn your bridges. only in the most extreme situations will you have to do so. there are unhealthy people in this world. do not make them a burden of yours. you cannot help sociopaths. you cannot change them. they will find help or they will hurt themselves. but they will hurt you if you keep them around.
find perspective.
ciao bella.
